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Stay Happy Together, Take Note of the Tips to Avoid Marriage Problems Early On

The first year of marriage can seem wonderful, but it can also lay a foundation of marriage problems. Avoid them early on, for a happily ever after.

The four groups of marriage couples.

Couples fall into four different groups, happily married, unhappily married, divorcing early on, or divorcing later in life. Those who were happily married had one shining characteristic. They were very in love and affectionate with each other that first year of marriage and beyond. They also talked about, and thought about, their mates more positively.

The first two years are very significant and predictive of the success of a relationship because they set the tone for those years that come after, and they are the highest risk years for calling it quits.

The biggest thing in those first two years was not, not getting along; it was loving and finding affection for each other.

Avoiding marriage problems: these are the ways to save your first year to save your marriage.

Maintain some mystery. Don’t put it all out there. Keep your hygiene habits to yourself and close the door. It is important always to maintain some level of mystery and sexiness.

Ditch the sweatpants. Granny panties weren’t cute when you were dating; they aren’t cute now. Be mindful of the way you look, not just when you go out, but when you are staying in. You used to dress to attract each other, now is not the time to stop.

Pretend you are dating. When you are dating, you stop from saying critical things and do those particular things that make each other feel good. Do the same things as when there was the potential for them to say goodbye.

Remember that your mate is still wanted by others. Just because your spouse married you, doesn’t mean that others wouldn’t love to be with them. When they said “I do,” they didn’t become unattractive to others. Remember, you are still lucky to be with them.

Picture the first time you knew you were in love. Periodically, especially when things get tough, picture the first time you knew you were in love with them. There was a look that they gave you or something they did that let you know they were the one. Conjure up those memories when you are overwhelmed, frustrated, or upset.

Don’t let the ugly out. If you wouldn’t have said it before you got married, you ought not to say it now. Many couples think that once the vows are said, they can say and do whatever they want to hurt each other. Don’t show that side of yourself.

Recreate the hunt. The fun in dating was hunting for each other. Show your mate that you are still attractive and that others want you. Flirting is okay in moderation and may not only make you feel wanted again; it may let your mate know that you are still something to be desired.

Don’t get too comfortable. You wouldn’t have waited for him in bed with your tattered old underwear when you were dating, why would he want to see that now?

Go out alone. Don’t smother each other, it is important to maintain your life outside of the relationship as much as it is to maintain your relationship with each other.

Send sexy texts. Let them know you still find them attractive by sending them sexy texts about how you are thinking about them. Sex can’t be something that you take for granted. Don’t stop trying to turn each other on.

Those three words. Never go a day without saying “I love you.”

Make lists of the things you love about each other. Make your top ten list of what you adore about them, and they are likely to reciprocate. If you notice that you have been very negative and critical, lists will remind both of you what you mean to each other.

Always kiss goodnight. This is a simple act, but one many couples overlook with time.

Be friends. If you wouldn’t treat your friends in a certain way, don’t treat your mate that way. There is no reason that your mate should be subjected to anything less than the respect you pay others in your life.

Make time for each other. Even though you are now living together, that doesn’t mean that you are spending time together. Instead of sitting on the couch, go out for the night and spend time reconnecting.

Make sure to smile. Even when things get stressful, it is important to reassure your partner with a smile. A smile tells them that things are bound to get better.

Gaze into one another’s eyes. Take time to look each other in the eye and kiss often.

Go to bed mad. Staying up and fighting all night just makes for tired and angry people. Settle things in the morning after some time to rest and let the anger subside.

Keep working out. The first “marriage 15″ isn’t fair. It tells your partner that you don’t care enough about them to care about how you look for them. Stay in shape and don’t let yourself go!

Buy sexy underwear. For no reason at all, go out and buy new sexy clothing and underwear. Don’t wait for an occasion to increase the heat in the bedroom.

Continue to learn about sex. Sex advice does not stop once you put rings on each other’s fingers. Keep things new and fresh by being open to new ideas and enhancing your intimacy.

Try new things. Be open to their fantasies. Being open-minded can bring you both to a level in your relationship that will bind you forever.

Have sex often. Make a promise to never go a whole week without sex. Schedule it, if you can’t be spontaneous.

Make up nicknames for each other. Make up a name for your spouse that only you call them. Adding intimacy, it reminds them that they hold a unique place in your heart.
Send flowers often. Remember a blow job is like giving flowers, so it goes both ways.

The first year can set the course for a healthy romance or a unhappy marriage full of marriage problems. It may take some effort and being more introspective about the part you play, but in the end, it is well worth it for a sound and happy marriage.

However, what does the bible say about marriage?

Proverbs 5:18-19
18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

By Robert Muriisa.

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